One of the things I have to say far too often in ministry is that kids are off limits. Its not just ministry, the minor and young adult children of any leader should be off limits. Pastors, church staff, presidents, CEO’s, politicians etc. Kids did not sign up for these roles and should always be off limits. Their clothing, appearance, choices and more are all off limits. Children of leaders are not community property. Below is a helpful article posted on the social media of Preparing for Amazement Ministries that is worth a read.
What do the pastor’s kids want you to know? Thom S. Rainer at Church Answers expresses some ideas worth considering in his blog post: https://churchanswers.com/blog/seven-things-we-learned-from-pastors-kids/